One of the things that I saw a good friend go through in this torturous letting go of an eight year relationship was her constant questioning. What if it could have been this? What if it could have been that, and what do you think he’s thinking? What do you think he’s doing? Do you think he loves me? Do you think he loves the other girl? No matter what, you’re mind just goes into a frenzy, of questioning
and questioning and questioning. There’s never an answer. I really feel that if two people really love each other it just will flow like that saying, if you let it go free and if it comes back to you, it was meant to be. If not it never was meant to be. It will just happen.
We, as human beings, are so worn out in these battlefields that we shut ourselves out of the experience when it gets too intense. Because loving does entail pain and conflict sometime. We get on each others nerves or sit back and say, “You know what, I choose to be alone and not engaged in this.” The beauty of life is to engage because as you engage, its the vitality of life and passion. To constantly engage and retreat and engage and retreat, it’s like a wave.