Single Mom Shares How To Find Inner Peace, Self Esteem & Confidence. Transform Your Life!

Author: Blanca Stella

  • Life Is Too Precious To Waste On Trivial Things

    laugh rocksMy very first ever video on You Tube was when I had my ankle surgery last year.  The doctor that operated on me was moving to New York and on my last visit with him, he was calling me a wimp.  He wasn’t saying it with anger, just point blank: ” You are acting like a wimp.”

    He was saying that because I was complaining about the intense pain on my ankle. I answered him: “Have you ever had this apparatus attached to your ankle?” And remember, I reminded him, “It was 2 surgeries at the same time!”  (To remove most  my pins and plates from my surgery 7 years ago besides the treatment for my cartilage.) He agreed. It was different and a double whammy.

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  • Can I Get Angry?

    I have had the worst two days of my life. They are issues relating to my ex-husband. I don’t think I can share all the details openly, but never in my life did I feel as threatened as I did today. It was pretty scary and I think that the root of the issue is fear and insecurity. I never wish any harm on anyone, but I do have the right to get angry to protect my rights as a mother.

    The other day when I wrote the post about balance, my brother(not the one I am working for) sent me an email and told me to “tell the truth”. Well, yes the truth of the matter is that I have been under a great amount of stress. I have been open about this. He was complaining because I have been  “ignoring him”. Yes, in this last year, I have been focused mainly on getting myself back on my feet. I have been selfish only to think of the well being of my son and I. (more…)

  • A Twist And A Turn

    P1290448Life is really funny. I had written the prior post on Sunday and scheduled it for the following day, which was yesterday. I’m glad I did because yesterday turned out to be a very stressful day. To make a long story short, my real estate deal fell apart. The appraisal came in a lot lower than expected.  When I look back at the post, Balance is Peace Love and Happiness, I ponder on my own words:

    The point is: Does it really matter when you achieve the success if the whole trip to the destination was a smooth ride filled with peace, love and happiness?

    So now I am back to scraping when I thought I would be breathing easier with a cushion. Honestly, I don’t know how I would handle all this if I didn’t have my quiet time to write, like I am doing now. Because  I am using this blog as a tool for my creative expression, it is helping me to move through all the unexpected jabs in a smoother way. And yes, while I am disappointed from all my efforts, it gives me more reason to see that doing this kind of work is not  the best place for me to be at the moment. New doors have opened for me and I have to stay where it flows.

  • Balance Is Peace, Love & Happiness

    Some thoughts I have regarding creating balance in one’s life.  The combination of both sides is necessary to be able to maintain a long term vision and simultaneously take the baby steps to arrive at the big picture. What good is a vision(water) if there is no action? What good is it to have tangible success if you end up burnt out(fire) along the way?

    So after putting all these notes here on this post, I question myself: Is it possible for one person to create without a partner if one continually reaches for balance? Will all the efforts be effortless as the s-team floating in the air?

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    Water                                                                                                    Fire

    Female                                                                                                 Male

    Yin                                                                                                        Yang

    Passive                                                                                               Active

    Feeling & Emotion                                                                         Mind

    Intuition                                                                                           Logic

    Big Picture                                                                                       Details

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  • Michael Jackson Didn’t Get His Second Chance

    I got this video from a link I saw  from someone I follow on Twitter @undercover.  It is a lead up to the theatrical release of the movie, This Is It. It has been less than four months on June 25, 2009 that Michael Jackson died.  When I look at this video, the thought I get is:  “Did he really feel that this was his second chance of a comeback when he was rehearsing? Was he confident with himself? How did he feel getting ready to go out to millions of people who had shunned him because of all the allegations with children?

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  • Managing Current Reality With A Dream

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    Pipevine Flower In My Butterfly Garden – Looks Like An Upside Down Heart

    I had  a quiet day today at home. The only thing I did was hang out with my son in the morning and go to the gym(and pulled a muscle on my lower back!). It was a beautiful sunny day and normally on a Sunday, I would probably go to the beach. Instead, I simply read a book and took a nice long nap. There is always the pull of spending time for my dreams – writing my book and editing more chapters. Instead it was a day of not thinking, just being.

    I was looking at some of the videos I did a year ago during my meltdown. I was ever so optimistic of working as a realtor in the foreclosure business. Now I don’t want to even think of the word. At that time, I thought it was the best niche in the real estate business to make solid income. Good thing,  I continued plan B at night – my projects. (more…)