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Author: Blanca Stella

  • Two Sisters Frolicking In Play

    Two Sisters At The Beach
    Two Sisters At The Beach

    Today I finally went to the beach. It has been over six weeks since I go and find my peace there.  As I was walking towards the beach, my sister emailed me. She asked me why I was ignoring her. To be fair to her, she did call me a few times this week. But I was busy when she called. I remember waiting all day the trademarks were going to expire wondering if she would call. She never did.

    So today, my blood boiled over when she said I was ignoring her. I would be lying if I didn’t admit that I was angry. I emailed her back that I would talk to her when she reads my blog. I know I must resolve this anger because she is my sister – of the same flesh and blood. She also happens to be the only person I would trust if I were to partner with someone.  I am angry because I don’t want to expect anymore. It creates a yo-yo wackiness in my mind. I believe that when you commit to something, you must follow through. I only question now if her commitment was real. I don’t want to wonder anymore why she doesn’t step up to the plate. (more…)

  • Am I Out Of My Mind?

    Strawberry Cheesecake Ice Cream
    Strawberry Cheesecake Ice Cream

    I asked my 16 year old son these questions today now that I am renewing the pursuit of this project and my dreams by myself.

    Me: “Honey, Do you think I am crazy?”

    Cristian: “Maybe.”
    Me: ” Honey, Do you think I am out of my mind?”
    Cristian: “Maybe.”
    Me: “Well you know, I think you have to be out of your mind to do something crazy like I am attempting to do.
    Cristian: ****Silence****
    Me: “Do you think I can make it? Do you really believe in me?”
    Cristian: “Obviously.”
    Me: “That’s all I needed to know. I love you. Let’s have some strawberry cheesecake ice cream.” (more…)

  • Paying A Price For Not Being In Control

    Bird About To Take Off in Biscayne Bay
    Bird About To Take Off in Biscayne Bay

    I just got a follow up email from a super nice Realtor that showed my listing. She was peeved because the “client” decided not to use her anymore because the “client’s” mother just decided to get her real estate license. The worse thing about it is that this realtor has been showing houses to these people for 14 months.  As a realtor for 25 years, I am used to this. Sometimes you work for months trusting that people will remain loyal and then bam they go off with someone else.

    The lesson learned as a realtor is to get an exclusive buyer’s agency when working with a buyer. In my case last week, it was a matter of respect for another fellow realtor. My clients wanted to remain loyal. One of the reasons I am hesitant to work full time in real estate again is the yo-yo syndrome.  In this Miami market  of short sales and foreclosures, anything can go haywire after working hundreds of hours on a deal. (more…)

  • Ganesh Hindu God of Success

    My Little Ganesh Statue
    My Little Ganesh Statue

    I stayed home working on my projects this weekend besides doing  real estate work on both days. I decided to place back the link, (My Heart Project page) to my project site where I want to put the inspirational podcasts & CD’s and books.

    So now what? There is so much to do. I was barely able to blog here before while I was looking for a job.  Things are more settled now. Maybe my mind is more free with less stress. Am I going to be able to pull it off?  Will I be able to get my manuscript finalized, finish a book proposal, create the characters for the children’s books, create the  podcasts and so on. When I did my countdown clock, I said I was going to do one thing per day.

    This requires sacrifice. I canceled going to the movies with a good friend last night. I am happy to say that I got an inspirational video with Jeanine Mason of So You Think You Can Dance last week when I went to my friend’s photo shoot. It got me really psyched and  will be the first video interview for my project site. (more…)

  • A Best Friend Who Inspires Me

    Napkin Drawing On Lincoln Road A Few Years Ago
    Napkin Drawing On Lincoln Road A Few Years Ago

    I have had the privilege of having a true friend for over 20 years. She was always “crazy Alina” always doing something.  We have shared so many life events, our kids growing up, marriages, divorces, much laughter and some moments of tears. We are in actuality very much opposites though similar in many ways. We both love to give love.

    Her whole focus has been on her family and her kids. I have never met anyone who has so many people around her. When  her kids were growing up her home was grand central station. We have traveled together with our kids as single moms and though there were some periods of us not seeing each other, we always picked up where we left off.

    I have never seen someone work as hard as this woman. Many people see her success now and say, “I want your life.” Yes, it is great, but she deserves it because she has toiled and labored for every dime she has earned.  Being able to see how she operates behind the scenes has taught me a lot about the power of focused  intention. (more…)

  • My Son, My Creative Partner..Maybe

    Milkweed Seeds I Planted in My Butterfly Garden
    Milkweed Seeds I Planted in My Butterfly Garden

    This week was one of renewing my dreams. Inspiring others is not difficult for me. It is something I have always loved to do. What I have found challenging is all the detail work to create a product from scratch.  Also, it feels so vulnerable. Through this blog, I have been able to find my own voice and be comfortable with it on a more open platform. I have connected with many people in a very real way and have enjoyed it a lot.

    I realized this week that all my yakking  to my son in the last years has paid off.  In one of my meltdown moments, I told him that I prefered to go to some tiny efficiency, work for someone and not have to think so much of how to put all this together. He told me that it was a cop out.  Of course, moving into an efficiency would mean that he would have to move in to his father’s house. That is definitely something I don’t want! And now he was the one inspiring me. (more…)