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  • Life Is Too Precious To Waste On Trivial Things

    laugh rocksMy very first ever video on You Tube was when I had my ankle surgery last year.  The doctor that operated on me was moving to New York and on my last visit with him, he was calling me a wimp.  He wasn’t saying it with anger, just point blank: ” You are acting like a wimp.”

    He was saying that because I was complaining about the intense pain on my ankle. I answered him: “Have you ever had this apparatus attached to your ankle?” And remember, I reminded him, “It was 2 surgeries at the same time!”  (To remove most  my pins and plates from my surgery 7 years ago besides the treatment for my cartilage.) He agreed. It was different and a double whammy.

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  • Life is a Gift…Don’t Let Anyone Rob You of It

    Sunrise off of Balcony of a Friend's Apt. in South Beach
    Sunrise off of Balcony of a Friend's Apt. in South Beach

    The creation of  life is a gift. We have to be able to SEE that any situation no matter how bad and symbolically may feel  is the end of the world and the end of your “current” life as you know it, is just that, a symbol.  They have to be seen  as an end of something so that a new opportunity can emerge. Job loss, divorce, health challenges are all tests to allow us to grow and emerge better and greater. (more…)

  • A Pilots Quick Thinking

    august-to-october-2008-621The pilot in the incident on the Hudson River in New York  yesterday is quoted in the Miami Herald that a catastrophe was averted by his “quick thinking and deft manuevers”.  Quick thinking like this can only be achieved by an alert and clear mind.  http://www.miamiherald.com/news/nation/AP/story/856361.html. The passengers marvel they are alive. Just reading the story myself  wells up in me the amazing feeling that yes, they are all alive. Why is that so? Why does it take a near death to jolt you into that clear minded awareness of the power of our life, our aliveness. 

    We live in a world of constant distractions and worries especially now with the state of the economic affairs. These instances give us a pause to remind us that our life is not to be taken for granted. We each have a purpose, no matter how small. Maybe the chaos that is happening in the world economically is simply a shift for us to pause for us to restructure and reshape our lives with more meaning. (more…)

  • Dear Life Letter

    I had a dream last night that I actually died. I was laying in bed in a hospital and organically felt and saw what it was like to “pass on”. I don’t know if what I saw in the dream is actually what happens. I suppose no one can really say except God.

    While I was emailing my sister, I got this insight of writing “dear Life letters”.  It is not my real thoughts. I am inventing a fictional character that regrets not doing much in life, someone who was negative and had a bad attitude in life.

    In that dream, after I died, this world, this body, had no more attachment. I wasn’t pulled to go back. Something else was pulling me somewhere else and I was not afraid. I didn’t know where but it felt peaceful. It was just interesting that the body which once had life could collapse and just be a blob and lay there on the bed lifeless. I guess that is how many people are anyway, like walking zombies confused and walking aimlessly in life, complaining and not doing anything constructive with their lives. That’s sad.

    Of course when you are really confronted with real death, you will fight for “dear life”. People should start writing letters to “dear life”, like this:

    “Dear Life, sorry I have been such a drip with my self loathing attitude that I am no good and I can’t do this and I can’t do that. Sorry I couldn’t really see how beautiful this earth, this creation really is. Sorry I took it for granted. And all the people that surround me and attempted to give me hope but with my bad attitude, I didn’t believe them.

    I’m sorry I didn’t take advantage of understanding how much I really can contribute in some way and that I do have something of value. I was so just darn afraid of being taken advantage again. You know, who can you trust in this world anyway.  I even bought into so many bad thoughts that I couldn’t concentrate on what good I could do. So dear life, be kind to me where you take me in what some people call the “afterlife”.

    If it is called “after life” does that mean you are there too? Maybe then finally I will have a better life. Sorry I couldn’t make it better here. Oh well next time around, I promise to make it better. Just don’t give me that amnesia serum or that nasty bad hypnosis serum of all those distorted thoughts. I should of gotten out of that bad hypnosis earlier to see that you, Life, wasn’t so bad after all. Oh well, see you in the next one.”

    Your truly,

    Random Unnecessary Voice(Fictional Character)

  • Let Go or Engage in the Relationship?

    wave1One of the things that  I saw a good friend go through in this torturous letting go of an eight year relationship was her constant questioning.  What if it could have been this?  What if it could have been that, and what do you think he’s thinking?  What do you think he’s doing?  Do you think he loves me?  Do you think he loves the other girl?  No matter what, you’re mind just goes into a frenzy, of questioning
    and questioning and questioning.  There’s never an answer.  I really feel that if two people really love each other it just will flow like that saying, if you let it go free and if it comes back to you, it was meant to be. If not it never was meant to be. It will just happen. 

     We, as human beings, are so worn out in these battlefields that we shut ourselves out of the experience when it gets too intense.  Because loving does entail pain and conflict sometime.  We get on each others nerves or sit back and say, “You know what, I choose to be alone and not engaged in this.”  The beauty of life is to engage because as you engage, its the vitality of life and passion.  To constantly engage and retreat and engage and retreat, it’s like a wave.

  • Do 2 Voids Make a Whole?

    What happens when you are with someone who is wanting a relationship to fill a void vs. sharing because they are filled? How can you get to the point where you  can be the latter? Is it possible? How can you know in the beginning of a relationship if it is the first – having someone to fill a void. I suppose that when you are doing the same(filling a void), then it would be hard to see. Do 2 voids fill up or better yet, how can 2 voids become filled? (more…)