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  • Letting go in Love vs. Bitterness and Pain

    rose-close-upFor the past three weeks, I have done a catharsis in the way of writing letters to this man that I let go of. It was my way of understanding my feelings and emotions that I didn’t know had gone so deep. What has happened is that the writings are so much that I believe it has turned out to a book.

    I have been in the process of writing a different book with my sister, but this kind of morphed out of me and it totally took me by surprise. So it will be published soon. I just have to transcribe all these letters which I wrote at all hours of the days including being woken up at 2, 3 or 4 AM. It somehow took over me. (more…)

  • Can You See Any Symbols?

    detourThe passion that I have for my dream is greater now than the infancy of this relationship. I feel there is a possibility that I am choosing to go in this direction right now. That is where my heart is. I thought I could do both; I’m not sure if I can. Maybe I will. But for now, this is where I’m being led. A relationship does take time to nourish and to grow.  And so it is with this new creative projects that I am doing with my sister. It all takes away from  my free time, besides the fact that I’m also a mother, and I also love to enjoy time with my family and friends.

     We seem to be limited by time, but I realize that I limit myself in what I really want to achieve. Here I was confronted with finding a beautiful, potential relationship. Yet, it was broken up. Not by my intentions, initially. It was by fear, which we now realize. Now, I don’t know. I don’t know where I’m heading with the relationship; if I am or not. I’ve let it go for now. (more…)

  • Going Back To Me and Following My Passion

    brito-picture-2-kids-smilingFor me, letting go of this short relationship that felt like a potential true partnership at this critical juncture of time meant that I had to make a choice. It was not whether I should meet another man.  It was a choice of   this relationship or pursue my dreams, the creativity and the part of me that I finally discovered.  I thought I could do both.  And I think I probably still can.  (more…)

  • Being Grateful and Being Led

    beach two pathsThis past week has been an interesting week in my new relationship.  Things took an unexpected turn, and I broke it off.  There is still a possibility for there is much in the sense of understanding, compassion, and love and kindness, great qualities that do exist between myself and this other person.  However, I was feeling a disconnect  on an emotional level. I was sensing probably his fear of getting hurt even though he didn’t project it that way. 
    Circumstances occurred and I just walked away.  And by getting myself the time to reflect,  and go within myself, I discovered the passion once again of my writing, my sharing and following my dreams and doing so many things to manifest those dreams. 

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  • Let Go or Engage in the Relationship?

    wave1One of the things that  I saw a good friend go through in this torturous letting go of an eight year relationship was her constant questioning.  What if it could have been this?  What if it could have been that, and what do you think he’s thinking?  What do you think he’s doing?  Do you think he loves me?  Do you think he loves the other girl?  No matter what, you’re mind just goes into a frenzy, of questioning
    and questioning and questioning.  There’s never an answer.  I really feel that if two people really love each other it just will flow like that saying, if you let it go free and if it comes back to you, it was meant to be. If not it never was meant to be. It will just happen. 

     We, as human beings, are so worn out in these battlefields that we shut ourselves out of the experience when it gets too intense.  Because loving does entail pain and conflict sometime.  We get on each others nerves or sit back and say, “You know what, I choose to be alone and not engaged in this.”  The beauty of life is to engage because as you engage, its the vitality of life and passion.  To constantly engage and retreat and engage and retreat, it’s like a wave.

  • The Hurricane Didn’t Hit Us

    september-8-07-stormI have been writing these past days non stop some letters to myself which are addressed to my boyfriend. It is my way of letting go, writing letters. Its my way of releasing whatever range of emotions are going thru me instead of yakking my head off to my friends and driving them crazy. Here is an excerpt from today:

    I just heard this morning that Hurricane Ike is not really heading in this direction.  There’s been a lot of anticipation of this hurricane coming to Miami, a Category Four.  Who knows what would have happened if we stayed together during these, as you call, times of uncertainty.  Maybe our relationship would have been a Category Four and you were anticipating the struggles and you just wanted to avoid the storm.  Just like Ike you  went away,  I went away. Maybe it’s easier.  But I do know that when storms happen, people pull together. (more…)