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Tag: Spiritual Growth

  • My Weakness is My Strength

    img_0028The  severe car accident  made me stop in my tracks and  stopped me from walking for one year. It was a huge wake up call, which eventually led to reflecting a lot and spending time alone purposefully without a relationship with a man for the past 4 years.

    The process to create a new foundation and to recreate my life was not an easy one. It took a lot of trust. It took a lot of faith. It took a lot of letting go, along with some aggravation,uncertainties and anxieties that popped up. But I persisted because the insights that I was getting in my heart were coming in much too strong. (more…)

  • Strong Yet Vulnerable

    It’s approaching that 3 month stage of getting to know someone new in a relationship that has the potential to expand into something very deep and beautiful. But those vulnerabilities kick in as you are attempting to establish whether or not the relationship is going somewhere or not.

    At an older age where there has been divorce and other disappointments, its hard to trust and be free and vulnerable. Then there comes into play the children and blended families. How can all this be embraced in a harmonious way. Right when you think something is going so good, the axe may come and rip it apart.  I meditated today, reminding myself what I wrote to a friend who is suffering from a very broken heart- to feel whole in herself, to feel her heart mending so she can love once again freely and happily.

     In my case, I spent many years alone(4) since my last relationship, and have mended much within myself. But love is so vulnerable, that even though I feel strong in my heart, I have to remind myself that I am doing it different now, and see the wholeness within myself, free of lack. This way I can ground myself more fully with who I am and if it is to come that the relationship gets axed by whatever party involved, I will not be so broken.

     I will be able to move freely without any loss. Yes, the words are easy to say, but when that vulnerability and rawness is so open and
    present, you can’t but help to going into the sensation of sadness if something is to break up. I have felt some confusion and questioning this past week if this is possible while juggling all my other things_ work and time with my son and time for myself.

     After reflecting I thought that if something is meant to be, and it is truly real, then God can rearrange all events so that it can flow and
    be harmonious. Again, I am surrendering to whatever is my own highest good. The vulnerability is there. I am starting to feel a lot for this person, yet when the uncertainty comes into play, I tend to close up to not feel that vulnerability. But I don’t want to close up. I want to feel whatever fears come up and move through them and trust that God will guide me in my highest path

  • Who Do You Love More?

    My son has asked me many times, “Who do you love more me or Sparky?” Sparky is our beautiful eight year old Labrador.  We’ve had him since he was a puppy.  Of course I always answered my son  that I love him more than Sparky even though I adore Sparky.  And then he would ask me a lot of times, “Who do you love more, me or you?”  And to which I would always reply,”Well, I got to love me first so that I can
    really love you.”  (more…)

  • Starting & Re-igniting the Fire

    Have you ever been on a camping trip and needed to start a fire? Did you know that there is a specific way to ignite the fire so it is able to grow? On my first trip many years ago to the out doors, I thought it was just getting a bunch of logs together and setting them on fire. But as I watched someone with more experience than I methodically put the logs in the form of a tepee with space in between each log I was amazed. One of the most important things she told me is the fire must have room to breathe,” you must approach this with intelligence and respect, you cannot smother it or it will not grow and the match that ignites that fire will die.” (more…)

  • Do 2 Voids Make a Whole?

    What happens when you are with someone who is wanting a relationship to fill a void vs. sharing because they are filled? How can you get to the point where you  can be the latter? Is it possible? How can you know in the beginning of a relationship if it is the first – having someone to fill a void. I suppose that when you are doing the same(filling a void), then it would be hard to see. Do 2 voids fill up or better yet, how can 2 voids become filled? (more…)

  • Divine Relationships Start With You

    Bird in Blue SkyI was reading in the paper the other day that there are less divorces here in Miami compared to last year. One of the reasons  is because of the economy most people cannot afford to have two households. When equity was rising, you could cash out and buy something else. Right now, it’s not an option for most people. The article also states that it is possible that some couples may end up working it out. We have given up too easily in marriages. The marriage counseler says “I think we throw away our relationships too easily.”
    I for myself was divorced in 13 years ago when my son was only 2 1/2. The intention of the marriage full fledged in Catholic church was to stay for a lifetime. When I got pregnant, I had a conscious intention that day to conceive. For me, that was divine. And today and every day of his life, my son is my most precious gift.  He is the one that motivated to keep going when everything broke apart in the divorce and all my challenges.  He has been my source of not giving up. (more…)