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Category: Relationships

  • More Friends that I Love..and A Bride to Be

    The Bride to Be and Future Husbandangie-and-group 
    After going to the beach at Matheson Hammock on Monday, I went to a bridal shower for
    Alejandra. I got there about two hours  late because I was not thinking of time while at the beach. Timelessness is a good thing especially when on vacation. Better late than never.

    One of my best friend’s was giving the shower. I made the intention that Angie, who is single have a shower within 18 months. So when the picture on the right was taken, we had just put the intention that Angie open her heart to receive someone to love her. I love Angie and she is a beautiful girl who has alot to give. Good luck Ale and Laz. I wish you all the love in the world.

  • Letting go in Love vs. Bitterness and Pain

    rose-close-upFor the past three weeks, I have done a catharsis in the way of writing letters to this man that I let go of. It was my way of understanding my feelings and emotions that I didn’t know had gone so deep. What has happened is that the writings are so much that I believe it has turned out to a book.

    I have been in the process of writing a different book with my sister, but this kind of morphed out of me and it totally took me by surprise. So it will be published soon. I just have to transcribe all these letters which I wrote at all hours of the days including being woken up at 2, 3 or 4 AM. It somehow took over me. (more…)

  • Going Back To Me and Following My Passion

    brito-picture-2-kids-smilingFor me, letting go of this short relationship that felt like a potential true partnership at this critical juncture of time meant that I had to make a choice. It was not whether I should meet another man.  It was a choice of   this relationship or pursue my dreams, the creativity and the part of me that I finally discovered.  I thought I could do both.  And I think I probably still can.  (more…)

  • Let Go or Engage in the Relationship?

    wave1One of the things that  I saw a good friend go through in this torturous letting go of an eight year relationship was her constant questioning.  What if it could have been this?  What if it could have been that, and what do you think he’s thinking?  What do you think he’s doing?  Do you think he loves me?  Do you think he loves the other girl?  No matter what, you’re mind just goes into a frenzy, of questioning
    and questioning and questioning.  There’s never an answer.  I really feel that if two people really love each other it just will flow like that saying, if you let it go free and if it comes back to you, it was meant to be. If not it never was meant to be. It will just happen. 

     We, as human beings, are so worn out in these battlefields that we shut ourselves out of the experience when it gets too intense.  Because loving does entail pain and conflict sometime.  We get on each others nerves or sit back and say, “You know what, I choose to be alone and not engaged in this.”  The beauty of life is to engage because as you engage, its the vitality of life and passion.  To constantly engage and retreat and engage and retreat, it’s like a wave.

  • The Hurricane Didn’t Hit Us

    september-8-07-stormI have been writing these past days non stop some letters to myself which are addressed to my boyfriend. It is my way of letting go, writing letters. Its my way of releasing whatever range of emotions are going thru me instead of yakking my head off to my friends and driving them crazy. Here is an excerpt from today:

    I just heard this morning that Hurricane Ike is not really heading in this direction.  There’s been a lot of anticipation of this hurricane coming to Miami, a Category Four.  Who knows what would have happened if we stayed together during these, as you call, times of uncertainty.  Maybe our relationship would have been a Category Four and you were anticipating the struggles and you just wanted to avoid the storm.  Just like Ike you  went away,  I went away. Maybe it’s easier.  But I do know that when storms happen, people pull together. (more…)

  • A Time to Reflect and Take a Break

    kiteAs they say, there is a time and a season, and for me, the season of this relationship which seemed to be flourishing has taken a turn in the wind. It is not out of conflict, but simply what I sense out of fear of embracing what can be so grand and expanding, but in the midst of uncertainty and limitations with him finding a job, it must be set free.

    It all started with him looking ahead a few months and seeing that there might be a turn in the road and in his anticipation, wanted to be clear and afraid of hurting me in case he found a job in another city. He is having difficulty finding a job in his industry and the gloom on the streets is not giving him confidence to find work in the field he has been for so many years.

    I understand this, but I also said that love is the most powerful force, and love can find ways if 2 people in love are meant to be together. I put the intention of a divine love and I believe anything with that kind of intention can move mountains. I understand his confusion and anxiety It is out there in so many ways.

     But I am also in the midst of starting over in my own business. I was feeling that love can support and uplift each other, but instead it seems fear and anxiety is taking over. I am  sad, but not heartbroken. I have to set it free and what may have been a potential for what I thought was something greater can be burst in the wind and freed of its
    limitations.

    For my feeling is that true love is beyond any restrictions and if embraced fully- can create magic.